Sometimes you hear about something on the news that totally blows your mind away. Some of you may know, we watch a lot of paranormal shows here at the Hotel Thompson. That’s something that intrigues us. In watching these shows, you get to know some of the people that you see. And with social media the way it is these days, you even get to chat with these people from time to time. You may not have met in real life but like people here on the blog or on Facebook, you become friends.
Mom spoke to one of these friends a couple of weeks ago when she posted that she and her husband were separating. Of course, we never know the circumstances from any marriage, behind any closed door or what takes place between a couple. You don’t throw judgement, you support the decision and try to help.
Yesterday morning, the estranged husband kidnapped his wife and held her hostage in Nevada. There was a police stand off and SWAT was called to the scene. The husband not only ended up killing his wife and himself, there was also a third person whose name has not been released yet.
This situation has just touched my heart so hard and I had difficulty sleeping last night from thinking about it all. After doing some research on line, I saw that there was some difficulties in the relationship since earlier this year and one or the other was charged with domestic violence on two different situations. It still doesn’t make sense why it needed to come to this. What did it solve? You have the family and the public/fans of the couple just questioning why? It makes sense if you are having difficulty in a relationship to move on and give each other some breathing room. Why did it have to escalate not to 1 but 3 deaths is just unimaginable.
Friends and visitors to my blog, if you are in a relationship with domestic violence, please get help. Don’t stay. Don’t be a statistic. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline. I know that’s easier said than done. And I know that none of us know the exact circumstances to this case and that there are always two sides to every story. But please get and be safe. Life is too short and precious.
09/23/2015 at 12:42 pm
I’ll second that… and I pray that all who have to bear violence find a way out… I wish them power and braveness to get their own life back…
09/23/2015 at 12:49 pm
Well put my friend! – Bacon’s Mom
09/23/2015 at 12:52 pm
A similar case happened to a dear friend of mine, estranged husband killed his whole family, including young children and a visiting friend of one of the kids. My friend lost 5 family members that day, on a holiday. No recovering from that.
09/23/2015 at 12:54 pm
Shakes head. It just doesn’t make any sense to me. The scar is going to be heavy for a lot of people to try and comprehend how this could happen. Hugs my friend.
Tails Around the Ranch
09/23/2015 at 1:23 pm
Well said, Bacon, well said. Prayers and hope for anyone in this kind of situation. ❤
09/23/2015 at 2:44 pm
When we were moving, the same thing happened to a neighbour. It’s terrible to know that you couldn’t do anything. Nobody knew that they had trouble, only afterwards. Our hearts break when we hear about this ‘unknown’ violence and we hope a lot people, who are in the same situation, will read about your message and be able to take the step to change the situation, without fear. Heartful Pawkisses ❤ ❤
09/23/2015 at 2:52 pm
aaww – nods head. You never know what goes on behind a closed door or what’s it like to be in that relationship. I just hope that people do see this here and on the news and know that help is out there. My heart just goes out. XOXO – Bacon’s Mom
Midwestern Plant Girl
09/23/2015 at 3:52 pm
Very very sad.
09/23/2015 at 4:59 pm
It really is all the way around. XOXO – Bacon’s Mom
09/23/2015 at 4:37 pm
These things are so horrible when they happen and they happen with more frequency as the world “ratchets” up a notch with stressful situations. So wonderful that you posted the HOTLINE number and it’s so true – nobody should live in the midst of domestic violence.
09/23/2015 at 5:01 pm
It just breaks my heart and has really touched me. Such a sad situation. XOXO – Bacon’s Mom
09/23/2015 at 4:55 pm
So awful. Our hearts are with their families and friends, including you. ❤ *ear licks* Noodle
09/23/2015 at 5:02 pm
Thank you my friend. I still shake my head in disbelief. It’s such a very sad situation. XOXO – Bacon’s Mom
09/23/2015 at 7:56 pm
What a beautiful post. The more we talk about it and say it isn’t acceptable the better things will get. Hugs to you all there at the hotel.
09/23/2015 at 7:57 pm
Thank you my sweet friend. Help is out there. I hope that anyone that finds them in this situation are brave enough to ask for help.
09/24/2015 at 12:42 am
These things are never easy but being safe is the most important thing,just sad the people lost their lives in this case,xx Rachel and Speedy
09/24/2015 at 9:00 am
Yes it is very sad. We never know both sides of the story. But the main point is if you are in a domestic situation, there is help. Please get it. XOXO – Bacon
The Canadian Cats
09/24/2015 at 12:32 pm
How terrible!! There is never an excuse for violence in our book. Mom worked in a transition home for abused women. The tails they tell would curl even my furs. Unfortunately, we can do nothing until someone asks for help. There are many resources out there for battered and abused women and men in both the USA and Canada. If, you want to find them you will. Money is not the issue…there are many places that will help you and your little ones transition.
09/24/2015 at 12:37 pm
Exactly! It was just a sad situation all around. People are hurting and still trying to understand what went wrong and what could have been done to avoid this situation.
10/10/2015 at 8:26 pm
What a tragic story June!!! I almost became a statistic twice. My 3rd (ex) used to beat me up every Saturday night. It went on for 3 years. Even in front of his children. One night I finally fought back & broke his nose. I felt terrible because I had become just like him. The children told me to leave a few months later saying, “Mom if you don’t leave Dad will probably kill you!” No word of a lie. The boys were 9 & 71/2 yrs old. Far smarter than me. I left. My ex finally realized what he had done & he did straighten himself out but I never went back. That was in the early 80’s. (He used to beat his 1st wife also).
Fast forward to 2006 & my fiancé at the time flipped out due to Schizoprenia & beat & strangled me…it was an ugly assault & I had a fat lip; black eye; bruising from top of right hip down to knee; He had pulled my left leg & damaged my hip replacement (only 11 months after surgery); there was a handprint on my neck/throat where he had single handedly choked me & finally a whooping Concussion that left me messed up for weeks. He was caught & arrested. Pled guilty & did jail time. Went to Counselling & obeyed Probation orders. After 2 years I allowed phone contact & then a few months later we had meetings with the Counsellor at a local coffee shop. He made financial restitution & apologized ALOT. I told him if he truly wanted forgiveness he must never do that to a woman again. So far so good!!! Again I would never go back with him. At least I was able to forgive both of them & learn from the experience. There are reasons people are driven to violence however violence is not an answer! The system is so overloaded in both our countries that sick people fall thru the cracks & innocent victims & their abusers die…..
I thank G-D daily I am not a statistic!!!
10/10/2015 at 8:50 pm
Oh my friend. You know first hand then the outrageous crime domestic violence is in today’s society. I still find it hard to believe about my friends. It’s just so unbelievable! Thank goodness you got out and got help. Much love.
10/11/2015 at 6:20 pm
I do unfortunately. I had very low self-esteem by the time I was with my 3rd hubby. I had messed up the 2 previous marriages so I believed I ‘deserved’ what I got. Sad but true. I managed to get out with the boys help. I got counseling. I got stronger.
Somewhere along the line after both #4 & #5 hubbies died something in me changed. I went with my fiancé out of grief & fear & loneliness. Yes I loved him & still do. He had too many problems to really help me so it was a bad match. However he stood up like a man & admitted his guilt & got help. He earned my respect & friendship back. That RARELY happens. So I count myself as fortunate,
P.S.: I hope you did not mind I shared my story here with you.
10/12/2015 at 10:22 am
Not at all my friend. Please share. If this could help one person from reading this, it means so much! XOXO – Bacon
10/12/2015 at 1:58 pm
Thank you for understanding>>>that was my goal in sharing! I am ‘recovered’ from all the domestic violence now & it is does not haunt me or control me. Sharing m story is one way to remember where I have come from & tat I do not want to ever be in such a situation ever again!
10/12/2015 at 2:09 pm
We don’t want you in that situation ever again either my friend!
10/12/2015 at 2:26 pm
Thanks June & Bacon! me neither! I prefer my quiet life w/out all the hysterics & violence!